There are many functions of the English language that get criticised for their emotive or potential manipulative qualities, but one that always seems to go unchallenged is the use of vehement terms followed by an instant correction. An example of this would be; “I just find her really… not annoying, just very talkative.” No matter what, the listener will absorb you saying “annoying” and from then on that will be their impression. It can work both for and against the speaker, especially if it’s an accidental slip up when complimenting someone’s dress or food, as I found out. Mind you, “slutty” can be a compliment if that was the intention, but I guess “watery” never can be.
Similarly, a variation of this can be very effective when describing someone pre-introduction. “David, he’s a bit loud, kind of a handful, but is very nice.” To say someone is “nice” is a null point, so it’s clear that your statement is to highlight the former part of the sentence.
Script writers use this to their advantage for characterisation, because when you’re watching it, you can tell that the speaker is manipulative, but in real life you don’t have the fourth wall saving you from vicious social control.
So yeah, be careful. Or use it to your advantage. Whatever.
(Please note that these were incredibly unsubtle examples, so keep your eyes and ears posted xD)
In other news, my german bank card has been frozen (I forgot my pin) and I need to send it to Munich or something. This isn’t really, really fucking annoying, but is a bit of a shame.